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Originally Posted by RubyRae
Do you know why what you think and feel doesn't matter to your husband and he does what he wants and in the way he wants to?
Because you allow him to.
Are there any consequences if he goes against what you want?If not then he knows you'll get mad,***** and whine but you won't ever really do anything about it.He probably doesn't even listen to you or even care what you say anymore,he probably just tunes you out knowing that in the end things will be how he says they will be.
I don't mean to sound cruel,but it's just the truth and sometimes the truth hurts.You really need to stand up for yourself and stand your ground.What can you do to prevent this from happening if it's not what you want?Why should you pay for people to be in your home and walk all over you?You do have choices and options and it's up to you what you do,you are not helpless in this situation.
If you are capable of working and paying everything like you do you are very capable of making much needed changes.You just need to realize that and believe in yourself.
Or you can sit back,allow all this to happen and be miserable.It's up to you.
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I realize I'm a doormat. I always have been. Don't want to rock the boat and have people mad at me because then I can't function. Our house is decorated like a teenagers bedroom because H thinks his stuff actually has substance and means something (like the Metallica poster in a frame in our living room and 5 motorcycle posters in frames in our living room and the drawing in a frame that his daughter did when she was 5 years old!). But my poster of mountains and a lake in Canada didn't mean anything so he took that down and put the Metallica poster in it instead. And my tin art that I bought was "just there" not doing anything. Yet then he tells me he wants me to put up stuff I want because he feels like everything is his. Well I try that and you say it's stupid.
So I tell him I don't want his daughter to live here and he will lord that over me forever. If she starts doing heavier drugs or has a nervous breakdown it will be my fault because I wouldn't let her come up here. If she gets pregnant it will be my fault. If she doesn't go back to school it will be my fault.