Wow, you guys are so helpful!! Thank you so much! I actually am talking to a therapist about this currently so hopefully I will learn how to let my jealousy go. What bothers me the most is that i feel like I can only feel good about myself if I feel I'm doing better than her, and i also feel terrible for "looking down" on her my whole life and considering myself to be smarter than her.
I know that eventually I will have my Masters while she will have a bachelor's, but i really don't want to feel good about achieving a better degree than her since I want to drop the comparison piece of it all together. I don't even know why I'm so bothered by her going for her bachelor's in the first place, since as you said I will have my Masters eventually and be doing my own thing. It's almost like I'm a kid again and feel that being smart is "my territory" or something and that if she makes it through college one could consider her to be smart too, when I never thought she was before.
Thanks for your views and different perspectives-