To Rapunzel- yes a social group helps and I guess work is not the place to build the skills from the ground up. The "cats out of the bag" at work so I'm not hiding that I'm on disability for mental illness (the coworker is a gossip) BUT I got a Christmas card from my boss thanking me for all my hard work and looking forward to the next season! I think he's saying w/o saying that he values me as an employee and doesn't care what's been said! I did have a group I attended that moved out of the hospital building that was within walking distance, now they're in the same county but too far away to be practicle. I've never been in a chat room before so you all are my first impression and very positive. To SkyBdark- I posted one that I think I did wrong and maybe sent to a personal box? because I don't know how to keep talking to General Post unless you start a new subject- so I thank you for pointing out that you missed something while also being kind enough to reply. I am sticking around for 2 reasons 1: it helps to process a problem just by putting it into words that will be heard and I can then hear myself 2: I want also to reciprocate by offering my thoughts to others . I'm glad I took the chance to join this group on this site. Oh yeah- yesterday one post suggested depression could contribute to feeling like quitting job and I think that's part of it- but it's the chicken and the egg dilema (maybe depression made me willing to over-confide in another person because that felt like a relief. The pressure clouds the vision.