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Old Sep 08, 2017, 02:08 PM
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Originally Posted by RubyRae View Post
After thinking about this statement I made,and after sleeping on it,I take it back,it's not ridiculous that I am attached to my T.

It's a real relationship,it's not just a paid one,there's way more to it than that.He really is a kind,caring and loving person,not just because I perceive him that way and want him to be that way.I believe that even without any pay being involved he would be there for me if I needed him.It's a therapeutic relationship,but still a relationship nonetheless.

And I realize it's not necessary to know everything about him personally to be in this relationship with him.It's like any other relationship in that I only receive what the other person is willing to give or share of themselves.And they only receive what I'm willing to give and share in return.I think we all give and share of ourselves differently in each relationship that we're in.There's certain things we don't share with certain people.

I've been married for many years,there's things my husband doesn't know about me and never will.There's things I don't know about him and probably never will.It's still a real relationship,regardless of that.I have friends that I withhold certain things from,just as they do the same.
Maybe it felt ridiculous because you wanted to temporarily escape it? It's ok to feel different ways about it.

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I believe that even without any pay being involved he would be there for me if I needed him.
I can't see my T now that I'm experiencing more hardship and can no longer pay him for once a week sessions. So, it didn't turn out that way for me, and it felt traumatic to have to abruptly stop when I needed support the most. I have good days and bad ones now, and it still hurts tremendously.
Thanks for this!
RubyRae