Interesting Reddit thread on the subject:

https://www.reddit.com/r/psychothera...nt_attachment/

The top answer was thought-provoking:

"Just one thought of what I tend to try to do: Balance the style they like - practical, emotionally-avoidant - with occasional exposures to your warmth, gentleness, prizing eye contact, that sort of thing. Emotional attention can be very dysregulating to these folks, but I think learning to let in someone's positive regard and to thereby learn that interpersonal experiences with trust-worthy others can be rewarding IS what the therapy is."

The word "dysregulating" really stuck out at me. I'm not well-versed in attachment theory and don't think much about my style, but this describes very well what I (often) feel when people try and express strong emotional regard.

Interestingly, it had never really occurred to me that my T might be reserved with me because that's how one treats the dismissive-avoidant client. I'd always assumed this was just his style - but maybe he's very demonstrative with other clients? An odd thought.

I wonder how much a T's style might change between clients of different attachment styles/presentations? Only Subtly? Quite a bit?

What about your T? Do you think they tailor their approach based on your attachment style? To what extent?

T's and would-be T's - is this a thing? Do you do it? What's that like?