I found it much better when the woman stopped trying to be all empathic at me. She once said she was not longer as kind to me and was surprised when I told her I found it much much better that she had stopped trying to inflict her awful version of kindness onto me. She was surprised (or so she said - they lie so I never know if it is true or not and would not represent it as truth to others) that I found her mostly unkind.
I think she has said something about me being avoidant dismissive - but if I am - I see nothing wrong with it. I certainly do not want it changed.