Hi everyone
I'm coming here with a question : I started my job 3 months ago, I work on the position of a team leader. In general i got a positive feedback from my director, she's happy the way i handle my responsibilities and all, dorung the chat i mentioned that some of my tem members won't come and talk to me face to face and she said that they may be terrified. I didn't understand what she meant then she said i should tone down, less gesticulate and speak quietly. I said ok and left the offuce but now I've noticed it triggered some anxiety in me as i constantly think what and when to say, I'm concerned what everyone may think, I'm not sure if i'm allowed to participate in regular covos with other company members (or is it consideted inappropriate and no one cares anyway what i say)

now, I am an extrovert, my voice is naturally louder then others, i am all over the place you'd say, nice, friendly, energetic, with passion, outspoken , opinionated, I enjoy small talk during break time...having said that my team members are more introvert and i get it may be bit too much for them but Did my director have a right to ask mt to chenge?? Now i feel not accepted (before i had an impression that people liked me but now I'm thinking they don't), not myself and I'm stressing out what to say hiw to say and if i even can say something. i should feel this way. what do you think?