I did it for 13 years because it wasn't financially feasible to get a divorce at the time because the house was upside down with the 2nd we had taken out to build the patio.

Nothing made it work & honestly I felt trapped & I didn't know until I was leaving that he never wanted a divorce because he thought it would make him look like a failure

Living in that environment drove me to many suicide attempts thinking it was my only way out. I was finally able to walk out (or run away) finally after my mom died & I sold her house, took my inheritance & left.....2100 miles still hasn't left me free from him financially though because my name was still on the house loan.

We had a 2500 sq ft home & I basically had my side of the house & he had his but there was still interfacing & it wasn't good.....it got to physical abuse by the end & both of us had ENOUGH.

I would suggest not making it a long period of time like the 13 years it ended up being in my case.