Well can i just say that I hope this doesn't upset anybody have thought twice about coming in and sharing this but as somebody said to me in a PM I come here for support and nothing else - so thank you (you know who you are) - for giving me the confidence to come back in here and share the update....

...well I have finished therapy with my "minister" because we have decided to continue with our relationship. He left his wife on Boxing Day and we are looking for a home together... please stand by me!