We are getting married in a couple of months and we are planning on saving money to start our own business. We are currently employed and both earning but not too much. We plan to start the business mid next year so we are cutting expenses to save more. We are currently living together abroad and our parents are aware of it and it was okay with them since we are adults. We are 30 years old adult and very independent. Our relationship is smooth and we are happy. But what isn’t happy is that my fiancé’s mother keeps on asking money from him and wants to send her on monthly basis. At first it was okay with me. But I noticed every month she keeps asking and it bothers me a lot because we have our own plans and we will start our own family too. She is asking money to pay their utility bills and school tuition of his step siblings.

When my fiancé was still single, he had supported them for consecutive five years and also sent his youngest brother to school and now he finished his studies in college. So I think that was enough. I heard that his younger sister also refused to send money to their mother now because she is jobless in the USA now. But before, she did support his mother as well.

I haven’t met his mother because I am living abroad and had no chance to meet her as well. But I know that she is still young around 50’s and his step father is also young and still has the ability to work. Though I heard that his step father sometimes is experiencing high blood pressure but I know it is manageable and working part time but not enough to support his mother and children.

Am I wrong? Am I selfish if I ask my fiancé to stop supporting his mother? I don’t want to discuss this with him as if I am controlling him and manipulating him. Please advise. Thanks a lot! God speed..