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Originally Posted by malika138
I brought my husband to a couple of the sessions when I started working with my current T. It was a different dynamic than the one you are describing as he was helping me explain some issues. As your t suggested, I think bringing my husband helped my t and my husband each see the dynamic I have with the other.
My husband and I had been in couples therapy about 15 years before the session I described above. What I thought was an issue with our relationship was actually undiagnosed depression and anxiety in me. That is, perhaps having your wife go with you might reveal something to her about herself.
I hope things work out for you both.
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I have taken my spouse to a couple of sessions in the same context malika describes. I liked having them meet each other, and I think it was helpful for my T to watch us interact. It makes me more confident that she understands our relationship now when I talk about relationship things in therapy.
That said, I personally don't think I would be comfortable with my T and my spouse talking without me. When I have brought in my spouse, it's been very clearly in the context of my individual therapy, so I would want to be part of the conversation. It would feel like a fuzzy boundary (and maybe a bit infantilizing) for them to discuss me or our marriage without me in the room. But however you decide to approach it, I hope it's helpful!