I found both of mine in the web: Psychology Today, LinkedIn, YouTube, they also have their own websites. Not sure now which was the first hit, I looked up a ton of info about them.

If you want to find a new T, perhaps I would discuss upfront that they welcome out-of-session interactions and will also engage, make it very clear that this is important for you, before committing to anyone. Not just that you can email or text. From all your posts here, it sounds like this is an area where you won't compromise, so I would try to look for someone that is willing to adapt and contribute. Also, have you considered online therapy, Betterhelp or something like that? That would be more unstructured and you could perhaps communicate with them in a more liberal way, of course not in person.