My therapist encouraged me to bring my husband to session at a time when my husband was not being particularly supportive or understanding about what was going on with me. It was extremely helpful, but I had a husband who realized he could benefit from meeting my therapist and was willing to learn.

It was reassuring for my husband to have a face to go with the person I was seeing for therapy. It was helpful for my husband to hear from my therapist things that gave him a better understanding of what I was experiencing.

In our case, my husband actually decided to go into therapy himself, and with my encouragement and blessing, he also went into therapy (and he even saw the same therapist). While that arrangement would be uncomfortable for many, it worked beautifully for us and for our marriage. Many might fear problems with confidentiality, etc., but quite honestly, it was never an issue. Our therapist was very upfront about discussing those issues before we even thought to bring them up, he was always quite professional, and never did either of us fear or experience any problems with it.

We occasionally chose to have joint sessions to work on relationship issues during our years of both going through our individual therapy. We reached a place where neither of us require therapy any longer. We are both stable, our marriage is stronger than it has ever been, and we've moved on to a different stage in life as we near retirement.

The catch for you is that you don't have a willing spouse who is even open to going to a session. If it is something that you think might be helpful for you though, I'd encourage you to talk to your wife about just going to a session to meet your therapist as a way of understanding what your treatment is all about. If you can frame it as a way of just her getting better information and understanding about your process of therapy and that it won't be a session to gang up on her or even necessarily about her at all, perhaps she will be willing to just go the once.

Best of luck to you.