I am feeling really, really down, due to continued problems with my 13 year old daughter. She has major problems, and if that sounds negative, I'm sorry. I have tried to be positive and upbeat about her for many years. Just like I tried to be positive about my horrible marriage and pretend it was better than it was. I have a habit of always trying to see the bright side, and maybe it is less painful to pretend things are better than they are. I feel like no one takes me seriously when I try to get help for my daughter. Maybe I haven't tried hard enough. I don't know what to do.

I am 10 days into my 18 day break from therapy. I want to go to T's office, sit down, and say, "Please listen to me and believe me. Please really hear me and what I have to say. And then please suggest what I can do and where I can go to find help. This is so much more important to me than the divorce. Forget the f**king divorce for a minute and listen to what I have to say about my daughter. Help." That is what I would say to him. And if he won't listen to me or tries to brush this aside, all I want is a referral to someone who will listen. I am so at the end of my rope with this.