I spent as much on therapy as on rent, for four years. I don't regret it, that was my priority. I think we have to look at our budget, prioritise, and then budget accordingly.

For me, the main questions to ask are firstly, what can I afford. If I can't afford all the things I currently am committed to, where can I cut and which is my top priority?

I think housing always has to be a priority, but even with this there are choices - can I move into a shared house, can I move further out where it's cheaper and then commute, etc.

For me, the amount I spent on therapy has put me years back on saving a deposit to eventually buy a house. It might even mean that by the time I've saved my deposit I will be too old. But I won't regret this even if I am renting for the rest of my life, because therapy made such a huge difference for me and my experience of living from day to day is incomparably better compared with before.

On the other hand, if you feel annoyed about spending money on therapy and you wish you were spending it on something else instead, maybe that's a sign that therapy is not a top priority? Can you imagine living quite happily without going to therapy?

When I cut down to only once or twice a month, one of the ways I knew this was right was that I wanted to spend my time and money on other things. Therapy was/is no longer top priority number one, for me. I can't quite live without it yet, but I can certainly live with less of it.

Btw, for budgeting and how to cut your budget and save money, I recommend the Uk website money saving expert. Some of the things may be UK-specific, but not all, and there are lots and lots of great ideas.