We have never needed couples counseling. I have had him join me twice for my appointments. The first time was pretty early. We wanted to talk about something from my past that was very painful. We knew he would be very angry with a toxic family member. There was also a small part of me that thought he would be angry with me. T and I discussed it a lot before I had him come in. I wanted T to be there to deal with his thought and feelings. Plus we discussed how much information I should tell him and be a support for me.

The second time I was struggling with somethings (can't remember exactly what) again we discussed it a lot before hand. Because hubby and I are very protective of each other. She suspected I might talk for him. So T yold me a head of time if she felt that was happening she would politely ask me to allow him to answer. She said it once...we all laughed as I realized I do it a lot.

There have been a couple of times T and I discussed bringing him in as we felt he just wasnt understanding what I was dealing with. Hubby said he preferred not to go if I really need him to go he would do it for me. Because we blindsided him in the first appointment he really doesn't like the idea of going