Cielpur....interesting thoughts.

I have a few of my own to share. I think you may be confusing boundaries with expectations and treating them as if they were synonymous...one and the same. They are not.

For example, "When I text someone I expect the to text me back immediately!" It they don't they are not violating your boundaries. No, instead they are not meeting your expectations. Maybe they were busy, or had their own issues to deal with. They are also allowed to have their own boundaries to too. Maybe they didn't like being dictated by your rules and felt like their own boundaries were violated?