I think my t was a little blindsided when we got into my marriage. We had been talking about my depression, hypomania, long history of substance abuse and urges that I suppress that I wish I didn't have at all and this has taken several sessions. A couple of sessions I was hypomanic and she was trying to convince me that it was a crisis we needed to manage despite my assurances that I never felt better. Anyway, we finally came around to my marriage which was good for about 18 years and then really went in the tank about 9 years ago. We haven't slept in the same room in years (not by my choice) but keep up a facade like everything is all right.