Hi there,
I am so sorry you were treated so poorly! As a former moderator of five years on a message board for folks suffering from suicidal thoughts etc., this is something I would not have tolerated among my board members--and IF I had, I would HOPE someone would have reported me to the administration immediately! I wonder if you have considered reporting these people --or maybe there IS no one higher up to report to?
When I held the position on the message board, I read and monitored posts several times a day--both to offer support and to monitor for any violation of rules that the administration had set. We were a welcoming and helpful place and even my bosses said that they were impressed. I say that NOT to brag but just to give you assurance that you are right to be upset and I do hope you will consider not going there for support.
I viewed my unpaid position there and ESPECIALLY the members trust in me as a privilege and an honor. To have someone open up and share things on a board (as they do here) is incredibly courageous and no small thing so I did all I could to let folks know I acknowledged that.
YOU deserve no less!