Thank you all so much for your condolences, advice, and support.

wounded1, I'm so sorry that this resonated so strongly for you personally - I would wish better for you and your children. I so hope your husband will be willing to work with you on this.

sabby, what a sweetie you are, thank you so much.

Rosario, no need to be concerned about being hard on him, and I love your use of metaphor - very vivid. Thank you.

mckell13, you had some wise words that really rang true. I appreciate your insights. You said some things that I was thinking, but not willing to acknowledge just yet. Also, I am guilty of telling him how he should feel. I told him that I thought he should feel bad about this. I need to think about that.

Doh2007, you're right, I do know what to do... it's just that it hurts to do it, especially now; and I needed some reasonably objective validation, hence my presence here.

I am just so thankful for your thoughtful advice, everyone. I didn't know quite what to expect here, but I sure didn't expect this level of caring from complete strangers. I appreciate it enormously.

Thank you.