Thank you Golden eye, you are very welcome for the hugs.

Hi Jenifer, I am learning to set boundaries and to be more assertive as I become aware that most of my problems came from this. I grew up in a family who has no ideas of what it is? And as I went through a lot of traumas my self esteem as well took a toll. Apparently these things work hand in hand: self esteem= self acceptance and good boundaries.

I wasn't even aware how hard I was on myself, always trying to be nice and perfect, even to those who treated me bad. I thought if people rejected me or was acting poorly with me it's because I did something wrong or was responsible for them for being jealous or rude towards myself.

Thank god for this forum and the two of you.

Ps: if you know of any courses or quick fix to learn quickly about those things and do it all the time please do not hesitate to send me a message.