I don't understand what good it's going to do to move up here honestly. Instead of living with her mother, and I don't know what goes on in their house, she'll move up here to live with her father who smokes pot on a daily basis, drinks everyday-to the extreme some days, spends his free time playing video games and watching movies rather than doing any household stuff (projects are half done because he loses interest or realizes he really can't do them), and takes unpaid days off on a whim either because he's tired or a customer or coworker pissed him off. And when a customer or coworker pisses him off, he will sometimes take a week off and maybe call in once the whole time and yet never gets fired or gets a talking to. And he wants her to get away from everything down there to come up here and what, be motivated by him??!! Show her his values?? He talks big about how he wants her to stop smoking so much pot, but no doubt they'll be smoking it together because he won't enforce anything. He'll have no problem with her drinking underage even though he has told her she needs to watch it because his father was an alcoholic and so is he. When she came up with her friend a month ago, he told them to feel free to finish off the whiskey and gave her a rolled up joint!

If something is hard for him, he's not going to follow through. He'll tell her once to stop all the shenanigans, but after that he'll be like "Well she's going to do it regardless so whatever". He complains that her mother is pulling her in all directions which is why she's stressed out, yet he keeps telling her to go into the army or come up and work in the motorcycle shop with him. He's stressing her out telling her to do stuff just like her mother. Does anyone care what she ACTUALLY wants to do??