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Originally Posted by velcro003
P.S: That is NOT me blaming you, AT ALL. I agree with the others that she doesn't know how to handle your abuse and re-traumatization.
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I agree.
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Originally Posted by granite1
she talked about me reenacting the trauma but said i am creating that myself . . . at the end she told me to breath in and out a few times and then told me to do it again and she was going to say something to me .she said i was ok and that she was not angry with me and she cares about how i am feeling and that she is not leaving me
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I think her choice of words and maybe even her understanding about what it is like to have had trauma and reenactments is poor here. For myself, I never felt that whatever is was that was getting activated was "I". So for someone to have said that to me would have felt very blaming and accusing and . . .wrong, because that wasn't "I".
Nevertheless, what you wrote that she said at the end seems like she was trying to be there for you and to provide what she thinks you need. Whether it is or not is up to you to decide.
Very complicated. Hope things can work out or that you can feel OK about moving on.