This has not happened to me, and I am very thankful it has not. I would absolutely not be able to cope with these kinds of changes from a T. I think it would be an absolute deal breaker and would have caused me to leave therapy, possibly for ever.

I know there are stories here of people who have had this situation and have somehow managed to work through it, and I admire their strength and courage.

My opinion is that if the boundaries change this is always a big mess-up on the part of the T. It should be up to them to know what they are able to cope with, and to hold the line and be consistent.