My T says one can never fail EMDR. He also says for people like me who are dissociative and have been through so much complex trauma there is no such thing as going too slow. I will admit the beginning was the worst. EMDR brings all kinds of stuff out of the woodwork. But once out, you can begin to deal with it. The after effects have gotten much easier as time as gone on but I now tend to dissociate more during sessions. That is OK, my T adjusts for whatever comes up. We now do shorter sets and he regularly asks how present I am. We stop when I start to dissociate, bring me back and continue on if I am game for it. Processing in EMDR stops if you are dissociating which is why this is so important. I am finally starting to see the degree of stress for my initial target memory start to go down. I am seeing progress and actually looking forward to continue working hard to get through all of my issues. It will take a long time but the end results will be worth it.