This has not happened to me, and I am very thankful it has not. I would absolutely not be able to cope with these kinds of changes from a T. I think it would be an absolute deal breaker and would have caused me to leave therapy, possibly for ever.

I know there are stories here of people who have had this situation and have somehow managed to work through it, and I admire their strength and courage.

My opinion is that if the boundaries change this is always a big mess-up on the part of the T. It should be up to them to know what they are able to cope with, and to hold the line and be consistent.

That's how I ultimately ended up getting terminated from my ex-pdoc/therapist. I was with him for 8 years. He used to let me text him often and email him. And he always gave me a hug at the end of sessions. One time, I was crying so hard and he stroked my hair while he hugged me. And he gave me coffee for every session. I got used to these things.

Then, suddenly he said that he was cutting all of that off and gave me a 2 page list of rules to follow. Since, I was so used to contacting him outside of session, I had a problem not contacting him. Finally, in May 2016, he said that he was terminating me. That shattered my heart and was one of the most painful things that I've been through.