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Old Sep 10, 2017, 06:49 PM
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Originally Posted by 1111emm View Post
Does anyone else have the problem of being completely unable to make and keep female friendships as a woman ?? I have the hardest time with it! For context, I am 23 years old and have had this problem for as long as I can remember. It's really been brought to my attention recently, as I have a boyfriend of almost four years and I feel as if I have no one to hang out with besides him! And I feel as if it's inappropriate to make friends with, and hang out with other men because I'm in a relationship and I know my boyfriend is uncomfortable with it, so out of respect I don't. I'm not necessarily shy or reserved at all, in fact I tend to be the complete opposite in social situations, my problem is that I feel completely unable to relate to other women. I feel like a complete alien around women; I don't understand the social cues, the passive aggressiveness, the drama/gossip, the unspoken rules etc., NONE of it resonates with me! I am a very direct, no bull **** kind of person and I don't really think it's appreciated in the female community lol

Basically, rant aside, I just wanted to see if any other women feel the same way I do. I'm really trying to "expand my horizons" and do things I haven't really put effort into doing in the past (one of those being finding a female friend haha)-so any input is greatly appreciated!


Yes, it got more difficult as I got older, chose to stay single and majority of my female friends got married or found live-in boy friends. And when that happened, I was demoted to being a "friend whom they used to love but no longer have time for."
Unfortunately, The same applies to my male friends because as soon as they get serious with a girlfriend or get married they move on to their new life and i hardly hear from them.
I disagree with the idea that woman are worse friends than men. It is merely an issue of trust and a true female friendship can be much more powerful than blood relationships or sisterhood
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