Hello WFS,

I am currently in that situation, unfortunately. It has been about 8 months since we told the kids (high school and college aged) and our families and friends.

I remain here for financial reasons only, while our attorneys begin to work on a settlement. I cannot afford a rental and living expenses for the kids on my own salary, and my husband will not assist.

My husband and I barely speak to one another, but are cordial enough. Nevertheless, the house is a very tense and toxic place. It would be so much better for my children if we were not living together.

Have you considered birdnesting, if you are dealing with a finite time, and do not want to uproot the kids until college? It would require the two of you take turns in the house, while allowing the kids to stay there all the time. I suggested this arrangement for us, but my husband refused.

If you must live together for a time, you must have a separate space where you feel protected and alone. With a door! And try to plan day trips on the weekends. Being together in the house on the weekend is the worst!