yes, this happened to me with my ex-T on a few occasions. the most painful was when he decided that he was going to restrict having a hug at the end of sessions because of his own counter transference reaction. i won't go into specifics to what his CT was all about, but it was incredibly painful and i spent 10 sessions (5 weeks going twice a week) and even hubbys intervention to get T to feel ok about having physical contact with me again. at the time when it happened, it reinforced the idea that i was 'tainted' and unworthy of any basic physical human contact.

another time, ex-T decided that he was going reduce outside of session contact. this would not have been so bad if only ex-T had discussed it prior to making his decision. he decided on his own, without letting me know and it was at a time when i was at my lowest point ever in therapy and truly needed some support from him. when i became suspicious and confronted him on his decision to cut back contact, he admitted to it and it because of what felt covert on his part, it drastically effected my trust in him. i no longer felt safe in therapy or with my therapist. this (and another issue at the same time) resulted in me taking a 6 week break from my ex-T and when i returned to sessions, i decided to officially cut back from 2 times a week to one mainly because i doubted the safety with my T.

overall, my ex-T definilty struggled with being consistent in the boundaries and this is where i believe many of the problems can arise. it is no different then parenting a young child...those parents who remain constant and consistent with their children raise a child who feels safe and secure. it always baffled me how much that my ex-T seemed to struggle with this consistency and in the end, it definilty lead to more harm in the relationship than good.