about two years into my therapy, i asked my husband if he would be willing to attend some of my sessions, mainly because of repeated ruptures with my ex-T and my dissociation that was effecting me to remember what was said or worked on in therapy. turns out, that it was so helpful to have hubby come along, that he continued to attend most of my session until i terminated over 2.5 years later. since hubby knew exactly what was going on in therapy for me, he could offer better support between sessions. also, it was nice having someone there who could not only offer the physical support i needed that T could not fully do, hubby was also good at helping to clarify things either T or i was trying to convey. plus, i fully trusted my husband and knew he had my best interest at heart and he was going to do his best to make sure i felt safe, especially those times when i struggled with fully trusting my T.

i know my situation is different than yours, but looking back i wish i would have involved my husband sooner in my therapy. but like many of you, i feared having my husband being involved in my therapy or having him hear the things i was discussing or that the focus would be taken away from me. in the end, it turns out that the focus of therapy continued to remain on me and my **** and having hubby there helped to strengthen our relationship and bring us closer than we had ever been.