Thank you for the comments yes my therapist is not do anything to encourage attachment want to tell him I don't trust him he always says but I don't think you should says I shouldn't trust him any more than I feel comfortable doing so because I've been hurt abused so badly in the past I do have a great excellent therapist very helpful hearing professional with excellent boundaries I don't know if he does outside contact I've never asked but I wouldn't want to because I can see where that makes people more dependent on their therapist. I'm broken in a lot of ways but I guess with everybody's comments here it's okay that I don't attach to a therapist.