We were out at a bar yesterday to watch the game and this very nice lady sat next to us and we started talking. She asked if we had kids and I said that H had a daughter so she turned to him and asked how old she was. H said "She's going to be 20 next month but she lives with her mom. I think she should move up here, but she doesn't want to". So you freely admit to some stranger that she doesn't want to move here so why are you pushing her to do so??