Well I was getting at that he says he wants something without thinking ahead about all the changes it requires. Just the fact that he wants it now because he wants it. He doesn't think about the fact that more money will have to be spent on food and the water bill and she'll need her own vehicle because her car down there doesn't run, and he won't have the privacy he has now.

And the fact that he says he's going to do something, gets excited about doing it talks non stop about it and then he doesn't do or go to the thing. Like this one coworker wanted to go to a concert and asked H to go with him. H was totally stoked to go. They bought tickets 4 months in advance. H was excited about the show for months. The day before the show he and this guy were talking about what time to leave work and if they'd grab a bite to eat beforehand. H was really upbeat about it after talking to him. The next day, the day of the concert he sends me an email from work saying "I told Ken to give my ticket to his daughter and take her. I don't feel like going". Money wasted.

He paid $60 for a cooking class at Sur la Table. Was totally stoked about going and then forgot about it because he didn't read a reminder email that came to him. Called the company to see if he could instead go to another class and they said they usually don't refund money or allow someone to just take another class if they miss it but they did for him. The class was 2 weeks later and he was all excited about going. The day of he decides "Nah I don't feel like leaving the house". More money wasted.

Today he was going to go play guitar with his coworker. He's been practicing for 3 days now saying he needed to practice so he'd be good to play with the guy. Last night told me he was going to go over there fairly early and they'd jam and then go have lunch and jam some more. I talked to him an hour ago asking if he's going over soon. He says "Nah, I'm going to stay home and work on my motorcycle".

Do you see the pattern? The constant excitement about something and then at the last minute deciding that he doesn't want to do it after all. That's how I see it with his daughter. The whole hype about how much fun she'll have up here and they'll do all kinds of things when, in reality, it will be him saying "I'm going to be playing video games all night so you'll have to amuse yourself".