I have felt in competition with my wife. We met at work. Our company was so large we continued to work there after we got married. She advanced faster in the company than I did. I continually got unsolicited ideas on how I could advance further myself. Eventually, I lost my job in the "economic downturn" (read "economic depression") of 2007. We decided that I should be a stay at home dad to focus on raising our daughter. Now, I am struggling to find work with outdated work skills and a huge hole in my self-confidence. I feel like a loser with a college degree, which is not how I saw myself after I graduated.