I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling. (((Hugs))) and I hope your daughter will be OK!! As for your husband, can you talk to him about this? Can you tell him, when you said X, Y or Z, I didn't feel my feelings were being listened to or respected? And then tell him how you are feeling about this? Perhaps open up the doors of communication, when you are both calm.... when people are most upset and get bad news, they may not be their best selves....