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Originally Posted by 1978dd
I felt that your post was very helpful and I related to it. I always do research on prospective therapists, physicians and other professionals before "trying them out." I'm in my 50's so I eliminate 20 something young therapists. I know they have to start somewhere, just not with me. Also, I avoid older "new" therapists. I want someone who has life experience and therapy experience. I want to have confidence in my therapist, partly due to abandonment issues. I guess I'm less flexible but it's my choice and I NEED an experienced therapist. I think everyone needs a therapist or other professional that they have confidence in. After all, it's your money and more importantly your life!!
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I am in my late 50s and do the same thing with the ones that see too young. I enjoy meditation but when I am getting therapy I am not a "chant your mantra" kinda guy. Same for crystals, magnets, auras (one of my issues is I can see them sometimes even though I don't believe in them), etc. I have the hang up that much of our generation does and I have an easier time talking to a woman than another guy.
I don't like wasting money or time, so I jump right in and spill my guts. I don't hold back. I have some unbidden thoughts that would be hard to reveal outside of therapy where I can be clear that they are unbidden. I do not wait to establish trust. I read reviews; if they had a tendency to betray confidence I assume it would be out there. If they violate it, I would move on.