Thank you MentalFloss, but no apology necessary. Sharing similar experiences with the folks here has allowed me to gain strength. And after responding to your situation, I took my own advice, and made my husband sit down for a long talk. I think I've finally made him realize that he has been following the model of his parents marriage, which is not good, and we are not the same people as his Mom and Dad. So "helping" you has really helped me!

I was so angry at your boyfriend's insensitivity, I forgot to offer my condolences for your father's passing as well. I know the loss of a family member can be painful, and extremely lonely, but please don't settle for someone who is just physically present. You are so lucky to be able to express your feelings, and you deserve someone who will listen and embrace them...and you.

Good luck, and I hope you find peace.