Thanks, Place and Kim and Silver. Your thoughts meana great deal to me. There is no suit pssible, that in itself is a long story. We have looked into it and the only way it would work is as a class action and that is hard to get people to speak up about this issue. The name calling and harassment happened under the adults eyes. It is a culture of accepting this behavior as the norm. A lot of improvements have been made since this happened. A boy killed himself, in part because of severe bullying and he begged his dad not to make it worse by talking with the school. He was 13 or 14. Dad has used his son's death as a stepping off place to do well. He has helped to create a lot of awareness of this issue.
Kimmy, the state that I live in actually re-wrote a law so that the state department of Ed could take back the money they had given the school where my daughters went(so called false residency) Thus leaving that town down on funding with no one but hubby to make it up. My state could have chosen to leave that money where it was, in that school and everything would have been okay. They didn't because they wanted to make an example of this. School choice is seriously opposed here. I just want what is best for my kids. It is a broad, serious issue. It has had profound personal implications on our lives. The bottom line is my kids are safe. That would not have been possible in the school they were supposed to go to. We have a good school with lots of love and caring. The adults are ethical and the kids have a sense of values. This we get because our state has limited school choice for 9-12. Alas, it is a serious horrid situation to be in. I hate that my spouse can never work again as a public school teacher with a master's degree in this state as he has been black balled. I hate that the adult bullies who put us through such torment when this thing happened to our son get to still feel we are being hurt, and we are. It is so large of an issue. Anyway, thanks for your support.