Basically, MentalFloss, to your boyfriend, this issue has already been settled in his mind when he offered his apology, and it will never come to his mind again.

Men operate on a different "plain" that we do. Most of what they think, do or say, does not connect to, or attached to a particular emotion as it does with women. So in their mind, it's really over and done with.

Women, on the other hand, attach emotion to everything that is thought, said and done, and is, therefore, more difficult to let go of, especially when we feel we have not had proper closure.

I did not vote, as I think your decision should be based on whether you think his apology was sincere or not and, of course, if this is a constant pattern with him.

He cannot use the excuse of your "idiosyncratic response" as an overreaction, for everything you feel.

Sometimes (indeed, many a time) the response you received is a (cowardly?) way of not wanting to discuss the issue any further, mostly because they just don't have the tools to do so, nor the inclination.

I have come to believe that men are just not as "evolved" in the emotional arena of life as women are!


Best wishes to you.