okie,

i'm sorry that happened to you. i can understand why you would be so anxious to see a male pdoc.

i find any kind of appointment with a doctor hard. i've started to let a friend know when i have an appointment - pdoc or otherwise - and set up a time to call her after the appointment. it's been helpful just to know that i have someone to check in with post appt. you don't even have to go into the details of the appt if you don't want to. you can just let someone know that appts are hard for you. normally i'm able to chat a bit about it and then go about my day. (i used to not be able to go into work or do anything other than crawl under the covers after a doc appt)

i haven't asked my t to fill this role, but if i didn't have a friend available after an appt i would seriously consider asking her. she likes that i've set up this system with a friend.

i'm wishing you the best.