Exactly!!! If I could "just calm down" or "think positive", don't you think I would? My mom and I talk about this all of the time. She says what I wrote earlier. "No ****! Why hadn't I thought of that! I have just been struggling my whole life for no reason." Ha! If that were the cure, most mental disorders wouldn't exist. I know that more often than not, it comes from good intentions, but it is overbearingly agitating.