Yes, I think that's one of the main reasons that my marriage counselor said he wishes I wouldn't read these forums so much. Because there have been a few times that I read something here, either related to something I posted about him or just something else someone was dealing with, and was worried he'd react a certain way or do a certain thing, like, take away outside contact. When that wasn't how he reacted or what he was going to do.

I originally came to PC because I was struggling with ET for MC and then came to realize it was actually mostly paternal transference. Which can be just as difficult and painful, I've found (because he can't be my father...) I will post positive things, but I'm more likely to come here when I'm struggling. I imagine most people who maybe came here at one point and then had a good ending with a T or no longer struggle with their feelings for T just stopped posting. And went on to other things in their lives. So this isn't a representative sample.