Hey. Of course it is okay for you to jump in!

John Suler has some interesting stuff that is freely available online about the 'psychology of the internet'. One of the things that he says is that transference responses tend to be stronger when people have less cues. Some therapists try and limit the cues that patients get anyway (in order to facilitate transference) by encouraging the client to lie down (a form of sensory deprivation) and by not disclosing any personal information to the client (so the client can better project onto the therapist) etc.

With the phone... There are only audio cues. No postural cues. No smiling. That makes it more likely that the client will read their fears etc into the therapists response.

That is... One of the things that I really like about online therapy. I'd like to do couch work, too. Have suggested that to my therapist but he (strategically?) ignored me.

So.. Not sure that it is a guy thing. Might be a people thing...

Takes a bit of getting used to phone and / or email contact. I had a really good phone conversation with my t. I think we were both surprised about how well that went. It would be nice if he adapted to emails. But still, if he doesn't I really will try and be accepting.