as a parent... i can say it would be really hard to hear that my child si...i understand that i have a personal connection to the issue... but, as a parent... i would much rather know, then not... and my initial reaction might be one of fear and panic... and sadness that my child was in so much pain... but it wouldn't change my feelings for my child...everyone situation is different so you need to do what is safe for you... but i thought it might be good for you to hear a parents perspective...and no, i never told mine either... but i wish i had told someone...when my kids were in t... what they told him... didn't go any farther....unless they told him it was ok...i don't know when it involves si what the rules are...but i would really like to encourage you to find a safe adult to talk too...lyn