Thanks. I kind of get the impression that there are all kinds of differing opinions on this subject, both at the place where I work and on here where I am getting and giving support. I don't even know which thought is winning out over which, in terms of seeing it as gossip as opposed to seeing it as self defense.

What I do know now though, is that my mental health adviser of today, not my therapist, but kind of a stand-in person in this emergency I am going through (a mixed Bipolar Episode, with my past traumas all being triggered as well) advises me to DO things to get my mind OFF the problems at my job, off the bully and the bullying.

So I created a separate thread for that purpose, to help me to think of things to do to keep my mind on healthy survival kinds of things!