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Old Sep 16, 2017, 10:25 PM
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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight View Post
...One thing he said was that it could be a goodness of fit issue. Like maybe T just isn't the right fit for me. (Which, incidentally, T has also said that my mom and I are a bad fit.)

But my natural reaction is to blame myself...to think I *should*...
See, you could have stopped right there, decide no more "shoulding" on yourself. Instead of calling it some kind of transference, cuz that just muddles it and loses track of an action you could take. You dont have to figure ANYTHING out to the end in order to decide to stop shoulding.
Thanks for this!
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