I told her today that our relationship is on hold and when she can come back to me with respect then we can start again. However, she is still living free in my house with a puppy and this is the second night in a row she's been out past midnight. She normalizes all of her crappy behavior.
One thing I am very worried about is that my husband and I are meant to go away for 2 weeks over Christmas, and I do not trust her to be in this house. She'll allow her deviant boyfriend in my home, against my permission.
I'm so sick and tired of this. I just want some peace in my life.