i'll answer (I originally posted because tara is away this weekend celebrating her birthday and I am struggling)

anyway, in the case of tara being away, she's given me a cd with her singing on it (and she sings beautifully!)

anyway, listening to her sing the sound of music helps me cope (I like to pretend she's next to me too!)

as for anyone else, just keep in contact with other friends that know them... so I know they are okay.

I used to have a real problem with letting people go away for weekends and stuff, because I always got the impression they'd never come back (i'm doing a bit better with it now though), and as long as I know someone who knows the person, I guess it's okay.

question:

have you ever just got rid of your meds (thrown them out, in the trash, what ever), because you just didn't want to take them