Gracey, I feel it is no one's business at work who you choose for your counseling, if counseling is a requirement for your job. If the requirement is, for example, for 10 hours counseling, then tell your boss you will identify a suitable counselor, get started right away, and once you have met with your new counselor and established a schedule for completing the requirement, you will let your boss know when you will be complete. I would not share any personal information with my boss, such as why you don't like female counselors, etc. All that is none of her business. The requirement is that you get so many hours counseling for your job, and you will complete that in a timely fashion. Be professional with your boss, but hold fast to your boundaries. Your personal life is none of her business.