You don't get to just rehash, you have to "relive" and feel the pain. No other woman is your mother so you shouldn't be lumping them all together. I almost killed my therapist in frustration because I couldn't get that my stepmother's comments were hurtful and my T kept using one example as an. . . example over and over and over and over again (why I was going to kill her, if she used it one more time) but I finally saw it and things snapped into place (and it wasn't my T's neck in my hands either). But that was a relatively simple thing. But sometimes it's like playing charades and having obvious clues and still not getting it but when you do, you can't figure out how you didn't in the first place.

When we did the Christmas thing with my husband's family just this past Friday, we played some game on 2 teams where they gave you a word you had to act out on a timeclock and TWICE my sister-in-law, on the other team, was doing very good, very obvious pantomimes and her team wasn't getting it and I hadn't seen the word either time but couldn't stand that she was so "obvious" but they weren't getting it so I blurted the words out and gave the other team points :-) I just couldn't bear seeing what was so obvious and having them not get it. Needless to say, our team won anyway, both times :-)